The role of women in Islam is as Quran says: (Surah The believer, verse 40)
"Anyone who commits some evil deed will merely be rewarded with something else like it, while someone who acts honorably, whether it is a man or a woman, provided he is a believer will enter the Heaven. He(or she) will be provided for there without any reckoning."
Prophet Mohammad(PBUH) has said: I leave two honorable things among you: The holy book(Quran) and The Etrat(The Imams"hadithes and statements")
So, we should see what they said throughout their life even though about the interpretation of the verses of Quran. For example, the punishment for women which is adviced in it for the time of disobedience should be down by a thin wood which Arabs at that time used to clean their tooth with. You know why it was just to show his wife that I am upset about your actions. And nowhere in Quran or Hadiths you could find an order to punish the children. Even though you see alot of Hadithes and verses of Quran on loving and showing your love to them.
For example: there is a Hadith from the Prophet that: The best man is the one who is the best and the kindest to his wife.